I had really planned on writing long before now. However, I have been on some shit – as sometimes is the case, and well, things get slack around here for that reason. Hence this post. This post is about being on some shit and realizing that and being able to call yourself out and get yourself together. I have to tell you though, this year has been challenging. I will have to go over a recap of events more towards the close of the year. Right now, it’s too much to update at one time. And truthfully – it will get better, it has gotten better, so the story is not over.
I wanted to talk about bullshit (herein referred to as BS for general purposes) today. And how I’m tired of it. Mostly tired of my own. Mostly because I find I procrastinate like hell and then things turn to shit. Do you know what I mean? I mean, when you don’t really pay attention to things and ignore them and well, things just go wrong. Like that parking ticket that you ignore and it doubles or a project at work that goes all wrong or that person you were meaning to call and never do and then before you know it, well, you can’t reach them. Or being late to work, or not really paying attention to the people around you that mean the most.
I really had to ask myself – What is the foundation of mediocrity? I mean, where does it come from and why is it we find ourselves settling into it? Not doing our best, not giving our best, accepting less than we should, not thinking highly of ourselves or other people?
Note: Clearly, when you even get tired of your own BS then you know a breakthrough is right there staring you in the face.
What brought me to this point? Other people’s BS – mostly in how they handle their lives and business. Here I am getting upset with some of the things people do – especially when it involves me and then I had to take a look at who and what I’m allowing into my space. In other words, I’m allowing for people and their BS to take up all of that space. It stops. I do control all of that right? Sure I do. I really had to take a deep look and get it together. Authors note: I have also had to take a deep look and set some people straight aka the Rae-get-u-in-line-convo. More on that later.
I know now it’s really a matter of reaching the point where you can’t stand your own mess anymore. You get tired of hearing yourself say the same things and giving the same excuses. I also know deep down – not only do I deserve better, but I can do better.
Really, that’s what it’s about. Getting up during the day and finding yourself in a place where you’re ready to approach things from a point of excellence and not some half-assed, half-cocked idea of just getting by.
What’s this mean? Glad you asked (smiles at how willing you are to read further).
It means the following:
- If you are not actively pursuing the things you want to do, then you need to get on it. Time flies. No more excuses. Aren’t we all too busy, broke, lazy, caught up, or whatever? People who are succeeding aren’t making any excuses.
- If you hate your job and are doing a half-assed job AT that job you hate, you should get yourself together and do better. It’s a job. No one ever said you had to like it, but you should be good at it. If you find you can’t pull yourself together to do this, find another one. I also give the disclaimer that you
MUSTshould find another one before leaving.
- You have to be willing to look at how you’re living. Honestly. No holds barred. Are you content? Don’t want for anything else? Well, then maybe you’re ok. But if you’re constantly talking about how much more you want and aren’t making any moves, well – clearly you’re excited to be in the current state of mediocrity. You can’t complain and not make any moves. It’s not logical. I found myself trapped in this cycle for years. But when I started to get honest with myself, some real work was put in and changes have been made.
- The road to hell is paved with good intentions. All the wishing and the intention in the world won’t get things done or make any changes for you. You actually have to deliberately change and it means some actual work. Better to start earlier with this than later. It’s difficult & challenging – but not impossible, to break yourself from the hum drum mayhem. It’s difficult to be extraordinary. Some of it we receive as gifts. Other things we work at. True excellence requires hard work and time – gifts or not.
- Some self-defeating behaviors – may have to go or get set aside. I won’t even go into this fully. It could be something like being late all of the time. But if there is something you’re doing or not doing and it’s holding you back from everything else, then maybe it’s time to look at that and work on it or cut it back totally.
- Be prepared for the ugly. in trying to make these changes and break free from sub-par-ness, you’re going to encounter a kick back. Either from yourself or others. Note from Rae: the haters will show themselves sooner or later. Keep it moving! This is where a Rae-get-u-in-line-convo may be needed. You’re either on my team or off the team.
- Hope. It’s the lack of vision or hope leading us right into a mediocre, just getting by lifestyle. I challenge you to find it. I always know I have hope. It’s typically a small blue flame and not a roaring forest fire, but a blue flame is next to one of hottest right? I’d rather have a powerful flame opposed to a lot of smoke.
I am openly challenging myself. I challenge all of you who are reading this blog. It’s important we come to a point where we decide how are lives are to be and we get deliberate about our business of living.